While I had thought about weight loss surgery before, I had never really given it serious attention. Then a sequence of events occurred in my life that forever changed me. The sudden deaths of both my uncle and aunt – both at the age of 58 – affected me deeply. Then eight months later, my mother became very ill and passed away. So in 10 months, I lost my mother, aunt and uncle, all prior to their 59th birthdays. I knew I didn’t want to waste my life any longer. I became fed up with the idea of sitting on the sidelines because I was too tired, too heavy, too sore or too asthmatic. I wanted to experience life and not have my family bury me at a young age.

Having surgery gave me hope and allowed me to focus on me. It gave me the tool I needed to help train my brain without my body getting in the way. I learned to choose the right foods and when to stop eating. In time, I could do things that I hadn’t done in years, such as walking up a flight of stairs without being winded, entertaining dinner guests without sweating profusely and rough-housing with my teenage son and giving him a run for his money! These are all things that people had to point out to me . . . I hadn’t done normal activities for so long, I think I forgot they were a part of life. Now, I use those things as fuel to do more!  I continue to lose weight. As with anything else, I have to work at it on a daily basis, but I have all of those personal victories with me when I struggle to make a positive choice.

The doctors and staff played such an integral role in my success. From the very first seminar to every appointment, they were welcoming and supportive. I never felt pushed to have surgery, only informed so that I could make my own personal decisions. The nutritionists were so helpful and informative, as was the insurance staff.  Once I made the decision to have surgery, I really just needed to follow the steps they laid out for me. Everything else was taken care of for me.

I cannot say enough nice things about the doctors! They have been so helpful, informative, supportive and motivating. I could call them any time I need them and they would be there – you don’t find that very often.

My life has changed so significantly since surgery, I don’t even know where to begin! Although I will always have asthma, I have never had it so well-maintained and experienced so few symptoms as I have since surgery.  My self-esteem is definitely greater. The compliments are strange at first and a little tough to get used to, but now I own those compliments when they come my way!

I have much greater confidence to try things that I would have said “no” to before for fear of failing. I have begun to enjoy cycling for fun and for exercise. I always wanted to be that strong woman I saw in others and now she is ME! Prior to having weight loss surgery, I was truly a bystander.  Since having surgery and learning my triggers, I know that I will not only reach my goal weight but I will also maintain a healthy lifestyle. I see a future filled with me being in the game, rather than keeping score for others!


*According to national studies, bariatric surgery results in an average weight loss of 55-80 percent of excess body weight. Excess weight is the amount of weight one needs to lose in order to have a “healthy” BMI of 25.

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    By: New Jersey Bariatric Center Staff

    New Jersey Bariatric Center®, a medical & surgical weight loss center with offices in Springfield, Somerset, Hoboken, East Brunswick, Hackettstown and Sparta, New Jersey, helps patients achieve long-term weight loss success through the most advanced bariatric surgery procedures, including gastric sleeve, gastric bypass, gastric band and gastric balloon procedures. Led by the team of Drs. Ajay Goyal, James Buwen, Tina Thomas and Michael Fastiggi, New Jersey Bariatric Center®’s approach to patient care has resulted in zero mortalities and a complication rate that is lower than the national average.

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